What's the real Question ? Acceptance,is it ?

I am a bit upset … I guess quite disturbed. On a quest for some more answers,yet again….

The question here is about Acceptance…

I have been, last few years noticing that a lot of NEW close friends/ relationships I have been meeting and getting to know are not comfortable to accept me just the way I am. It’s strange for me coz most friendships I have had in my life have been for 15 years and above. Over the years these friends have accepted me for who I am, what I have been through, they have had their point of views on my behavior, but it was conveyed with lot of love and patience.. I guess we have grown up together understanding and learning from our interactions and experiences over the years.

However my new friends,they have very strong opinions or views about life and how they like it …They also have strong views on what they dislike about me, and they have without any hesitation confronted me on the same. The good part is I too have been open and accepting their criticism…strangely for a person like me not been too reactive about the feedback. Though, it has upset me. Been very patient, silent and contemplating what I have been told. Trying to look for the truth.

However I am amazed at the strong reactions and the tone that these friends have been using … all the things I thought about me that were likeable seem to suffocate them. They choose to behave in different strong ways so that I get their point of view.

I too have been silent …open to things at times but yes very quite. May be coz I am in a contemplating and am in a self analysis mode. However I have started to feel that they perhaps have been misunderstanding my silence and patience as my weakness which has begun to bother me now.

What is bothering me really, various things …

1)Why have they been so stern and reactive to me? Almost like they are here to teach me a lesson !
Can I not understand the language of love … I sure can.. at least try once..

2)Why can’t they accept me for what I am and lovingly share what they feel about me?
I am wiling to accept their views and improve on my negatives…are they willing to hear mine?

3)Why don’t they realize that they aren’t perfect either and may be there are things about them I dislike too ?
However I do accept them coz I feel there is more to our friendship and relationship that I wish to discover and just suppressing the other doesn’t give me that opportunity…

4)Why don’t they realize that we are part of each others lives for a reason ?
The reason being, we are here together to learn and grow into beautiful individuals

But then again I think if there is this situation showing up time and again it’s here to give me a message as I know that “The outer world is always a reflection of our inner world.”

So is the real issue their acceptance of me or me accepting myself...?

I am leaving this post with a lot confused thoughts at the moment …However I know that I am aware of my situation and surely this declaration to the universe shall lead people or answers to me soon.