Still Single …

“Why are we always surrounded by kids or people much younger when we step out on a Saturday nite” asked Meena one of my very close friends ( still single ) as we waited for our food to arrive at the new eating joint in the area called “ Crep Station” Prompt came my reply “ Coz people our age are usually home, guys watching Tv and girls doing a balancing act between managing their kids and kitchen” …all three( third being Niki my yet another single friend) of us broke into loud laugh …

Well being single surely has its advantages …like lesser responsibilities, being able to take decisions faster about life, work , money, travel, making new friends, learning new things, just doing what one likes. Taking chances and risks etc…

No no , none of us girls are anti men or relationships …infact when we do decide to settle down with someone we will surely be great “Home makers”. However at the moment we are too happy enjoying being single. There is so much more to life that one can explore. There is so much one can learn, experiment and gain from.

Unlike the old days, today more and more girls concentrate on education, career and creating a mark for themselves. They do not just jump into marriages just for emotional and financial security. It’s like women today seem to have a different objective to life …yes all these single women do have marriage and relationships as an important agenda but only when they feel they have met the one they can relate to ,who understands their space and lets them bloom and grow beautifully inspite of being together

Yes this “Still Single” lot does have to go through speculative eyes of the society, at times fear of loneliness and being single for ever does over powers them, but at the same time they also get envied by their peer group who take the plunge much earlier in life. Confusing as it may sound but there are pros and cons …

It’s funny how all our lives we keep chasings something and when we do eventually get it we feel we were better without it. Eg as a kid wanting to grow up fast, As singles wanting to get married, As married ones wanting to start a family …these aspirations never seem to end or satisfy any one.

Does this chase ever end? Why is that we cannot enjoy what ever we get without an anticipation of something more? Why do we constantly believe and hope that the future will only bring with it better things? Why can’t we just be and enjoy the moment?

All though fears of remaining single and lonely in the long run do take over me constantly and I still don’t have answers to all the questions above…Off late I have just taken a very conscious decision to “ Just Be” , “ Live every moment” and enjoy being “Still Single…” At times I feel this decision does empower me and helps me enjoy life in a more fulfilling manner.

Which brings me to this beautiful statement I read today … “Learn like you are going to live forever …Live like there is no tomorrow”