You say it best, when you say nothing at all !

It's amazing how you can speak right to my heart
Without saying a word you can light up the dark
Try as I may I can never explain
What I hear when you don't say a thing

The smile on your face lets me know that you need me
There's a truth in your eyes saying you'll never leave me
The touch of your hand says you'll catch me if ever I fall
You say it best, when you say nothing at all ...

While all these years the words of this beautiful song from one of my favorite film “Notting Hill” were something I just seem to sing coz they just seemed too beautiful, off late I seem to understand what they mean or rather experiencing the beauty and simplicity of saying so much without actual spoken words

As a baby when we couldn’t talk or understand spoken words just that gentle touch, a loving pat, a playful touch on the nose, a affectionate brushing of hand on the forehead and head or a tender hug conveyed love, protection, warmth, support and so much more. It’s strange how over the years as we seemed to grow up we tend to ignore this beauty and get caught up in spoken words and expect so much from people. We start to believe that we are not loved or conveyed love coz there weren’t spoken words involved. I am not saying that spoken words aren’t important but at times just a simple touch can convey a lot more that spoken words only if we are open to receiving and aware of this beautiful nonverbal communication.

Love for instance can be displayed or communicated by sheer touch or a glance. However we seem to want and understand display of Love on by sheer words and deeds.

I have been aware and experiencing many such touches that have said more than what the person could communicate to me or at times just meant a lot more than the people could even realize they had conveyed to me.

One such touch happed last evening …after the most bizaare week of year 2007 ( Last week that is ) I had gone for my meditation. While the session was very calming and made me peaceful. Just after a while I shifted my seat and my eyes glanced Anil my Soulmate from Dubai whom I knew I would be meeting after 4 months.I came and sat ahead of him and out of fondness just extended my hand towards him for a handshake. As I just gave him that “ I am happy to see him” touch and look. He just reciprocated with holding my hand tightly,as though he was conveying that he too was very happy to see me. For some reason, neither did he leave my hand and neither did I feel like and soon all of a sudden I was so overwhelmed. Tears kept flowing from my eyes and I just couldn’t stop them for a long long time. That loving and gripping touch seem to convey so much to me …I just felt like he was saying “ Don’t worry I am there for you no matter when you need me.”. I felt immense love, security and a sense of a protectiveness showered by my loving baby brother. That simple comforting touch touched my heart and I just couldn’t stop myself from feeling comfortable of letting my tears get released. It was a beautiful moment and means so much to me. Thanks Anil for being there for me.

Similarly, when a loved one just takes your hand in his / her hand and holds on to it knowing that you are low conveys “ it’s all fine”, or a warm hug that conveys “ You are safe and loved no matter what”, gentle strokes on your head by a elderly person or a loved one conveys “affection and blessing”. There is so much more that one brush of a touch, the look of the eyes and just a simple smile can convey.

I am glad that after so many years like a little baby I have begun to experience, understand and communicate with people, saying a lot by not saying a word. Do they all understand … yes I am sure they do at some level, may be at that moment or latter. Whether they choose to reciprocate or not is a chose they make based on their willingness and awareness. However nothing stops me from conveying and willingly receive all the love and affection that has being showered on me along, which I seemed to have realized only recently.

That’s why the words of the song just seem so appropriate to me …especially “You say it best, when you say nothing at all”